.......... Keeping it real ............

As a kid I was perpetually sick and I had bad eating habits so my mom insisted that I eat eggs every morning, something that I hated.  At that time I was too young to understand why that was good for me and probably hated my mom for awhile to put me through something I was uncomfortable with.  Well good feedback is very much like that, it’s painful and most of the times we don’t want it. Several studies show that not only people are willing to completely ignore proof that their beliefs are wrong but also the fact that they have a tendency to believe things even more when their beliefs are challenged.  If you asked me in my twenties what my thoughts were on feedback, my response would be ‘I know better’. I was completely shut when it came to anything that even came close to pointing out hard truths about my personality.  But over the years I realized that it would be a folly to continue ignoring things if I wanted the important break throughs in my life. So I decided to listen and devise a checklist for myself to deal with this better. Do I follow through a 100%? Heck no! And sometimes it’s a real struggle. But I am more open than I have ever been before to receiving feedback and I am convinced that it’s the only way to personal growth.

So let’s start by asking some fundamental questions– Is all feedback we receive good? How do we know when it’s right for us? And who should we take it from? Here are some pointers I have come up for myself. Read More …

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